Heal from heartbreak, one honest question at a time
A 365-day guided reflection journey that walks you through heartbreak, one honest question at a time — helping you rediscover who you are and build a life you love again.
"I built this for the moments when you need exactly the right question — not advice, not a pep talk, just an honest question that helps you finally see your way through."— Leigh Baumann
What you'll learn
What you'll be able to do
- Process grief and painful emotions without feeling overwhelmed or stuck
- Identify the relationship patterns and unmet needs that shaped your past partnership
- Rebuild a grounded sense of self-worth and identity beyond the relationship
- Set and hold emotional boundaries that protect your wellbeing going forward
- Rediscover personal joys, friendships, and a sense of purpose that belong to you alone
- Enter future relationships with clearly defined values, healthy standards, and genuine confidence
How it works
A school that adapts to you
This isn't a set of static videos. Every lesson is generated live and tuned to where you actually are.
We learn your level
A quick placement check tailors your starting point so you're never bored or lost.
Lessons adapt as you go
Each lesson is written for your pace and your goal, adjusting as your skills grow.
Your AI coach keeps you moving
Checkpoints, feedback, and gentle nudges turn progress into a real result.
The curriculum
What's inside your school
7 modules · 35 lessons
Stabilising & Accepting Reality
The first phase of healing is not about moving on — it's about moving through. Days 1–50 create a safe, compassionate container for the initial wave of grief, shock, anger, and confusion that follow a breakup, separation, or divorce. Learners are guided to name what they feel, learn to tolerate pain without being consumed by it, and begin building the emotional safety and daily routines that make continued healing possible. This phase intentionally prioritises stabilisation over insight — healing the nervous system before the mind tries to make sense of everything.
- 1.1Naming the PainIncluded
- 1.2Sitting with Grief Without Being Swept AwayIncluded
- 1.3Understanding Your Grief StyleIncluded
- 1.4Creating Emotional SafetyIncluded
- 1.5Accepting What Has ChangedIncluded
Understanding the Relationship
Once the initial storm has been weathered, the mind naturally begins to ask: what actually happened? Phase 2 (Days 51–100) moves from emotional stabilisation into careful, compassionate analysis. Learners begin to see the relationship more clearly — not to assign blame, but to understand. What were the patterns? What needs went unmet? What did they bring into the relationship, and what did they receive? What role did communication styles and attachment tendencies play? This phase is about developing insight without self-punishment, building the self-knowledge that will inform healthier choices in the future.
- 2.1Seeing the Relationship ClearlyIncluded
- 2.2Attachment Styles and How They Shaped the RelationshipIncluded
- 2.3Identifying Patterns and DynamicsIncluded
- 2.4Unmet Needs and What You Were Really Longing ForIncluded
- 2.5Extracting the LessonsIncluded
Rebuilding Self-Worth
Heartbreak has a particular cruelty: it often convinces us that we were the problem. Phase 3 (Days 101–150) is a sustained, compassionate reclamation of self-worth — not the brittle, performance-based version that depends on someone else's approval, but a grounded, unconditional sense of value that belongs to the learner alone. This phase moves through silencing the inner critic, rediscovering identity, practising genuine self-compassion, and recognising real strengths — building the inner foundation that all future growth will rest on.
- 3.1Hearing the Inner Critic — and Talking BackIncluded
- 3.2Reconnecting with Your IdentityIncluded
- 3.3Self-Compassion as a PracticeIncluded
- 3.4Recognising Your StrengthsIncluded
- 3.5Building Unconditional Self-WorthIncluded
Creating Healthy Boundaries
Phase 4 (Days 151–200) turns the self-knowledge of Phase 3 into practical, liveable protection. Boundaries are not walls — they are the clear, compassionate agreements a person makes with themselves and others about what they will and will not accept. This phase works through understanding what boundaries truly are, learning to hold them without collapsing under guilt, navigating the specific challenges of post-breakup contact and closure, and approaching forgiveness not as a gift to someone else but as an act of inner liberation. This phase directly serves the target outcome of setting and holding emotional boundaries that protect wellbeing going forward.
- 4.1Understanding What Boundaries Actually AreIncluded
- 4.2Holding Boundaries Without GuiltIncluded
- 4.3Navigating Contact, Closure, and Letting GoIncluded
- 4.4Forgiveness as FreedomIncluded
- 4.5Protecting Your Healing: Digital, Social, and Environmental BoundariesIncluded
Rediscovering Yourself
Phase 5 (Days 201–250) marks a genuine turning point in the journey: from healing the wound to actively rebuilding the life. With emotional stability established, patterns understood, self-worth reclaimed, and boundaries in place, learners are now ready to turn outward — toward joy, connection, purpose, and the full texture of a life that is entirely their own. This phase directly serves the target outcome of rediscovering personal joys, friendships, and a sense of purpose that belong to the learner alone.
- 5.1Reconnecting with JoyIncluded
- 5.2Investing in Friendships and CommunityIncluded
- 5.3Health, Energy, and Taking Care of Your BodyIncluded
- 5.4Purpose, Meaning, and What Drives YouIncluded
- 5.5Independence as a Strength, Not a Consolation PrizeIncluded
Opening to the Future
Phase 6 (Days 251–300) gently and carefully opens the door to what comes next. Having done the deep work of processing grief, understanding patterns, rebuilding self-worth, setting boundaries, and rediscovering themselves, learners are now ready to begin consciously envisioning and preparing for future relationships — from a place of wisdom, not desperation. This phase directly serves the target outcome of entering future relationships with clearly defined values, healthy standards, and genuine confidence.
- 6.1Rebuilding the Capacity to TrustIncluded
- 6.2Defining What Healthy Love Looks Like for YouIncluded
- 6.3Standards, Values, and What You Will Never CompromiseIncluded
- 6.4Openness Without UrgencyIncluded
- 6.5Dating With Awareness: Bringing Your Insights Into New ConnectionsIncluded
Thriving Beyond Heartbreak
The final phase (Days 301–365) is not a conclusion — it is a beginning. Phase 7 moves beyond healing into genuine flourishing: integrating gratitude as a daily practice, celebrating the resilience that has been built over the preceding ten months, anchoring the personal growth that has occurred, and building a clear, hopeful vision for the life and person the learner is becoming. This phase closes the journey not with a full stop but with a sense of forward momentum — a life not merely recovered but genuinely expanded.
- 7.1Gratitude as a Practice, Not a PlatitudeIncluded
- 7.2Celebrating Your ResilienceIncluded
- 7.3Integration: Carrying the Lessons ForwardIncluded
- 7.4Personal Growth and the Life You're BuildingIncluded
- 7.5Visioning the Future and Completing the JourneyIncluded
Who it's for
Is this you?
The recently separated
You're in the thick of it and need a structured, gentle daily anchor to get through each week without feeling completely adrift.
The quiet processor
You don't want to talk about it endlessly — you want a private, thoughtful space to work through your feelings at your own pace.
The pattern-spotter
You sense you keep finding yourself in similar relationships and want to finally understand the dynamics and unmet needs driving that cycle.
The long-term divorce navigator
Your marriage ended months — maybe years — ago, but there's grief and identity work you've never quite let yourself do.
The self-worth rebuilder
The relationship left your confidence shaken and you need a compassionate but honest path back to knowing your own value.
The cautious re-opener
You're starting to feel ready to date again, but you want clearly defined values and genuine self-knowledge before you step back in.
Questions
Frequently asked
Your teacher
A note from your teacher
Leigh Baumann
I know what it feels like to wake up in the morning and reach for your phone before you're even fully conscious — just to check, just in case — and then remember all over again that things are different now. That particular ache of a relationship ending is unlike most other pain. It's not just losing a person. It's losing a version of yourself, a future you'd mapped out, a sense of home you'd built inside another human being.
If that's where you are right now — or where you've been, quietly carrying it — I want you to know something: you don't have to sprint through this. You don't have to perform recovery, or pretend you're fine, or be done with it by some invisible deadline. What you need is a place to be honest. A structure that holds you without pressure. And questions that actually help you see what's going on beneath the surface.
That's what Heal in a Year was built to be. I didn't design it to hand you a tidy five-step system or a list of affirmations to paste on your mirror. I built it around the kind of conversations that actually change things — the slow, searching kind, where you sit with a question long enough for a real answer to surface. Each of the 365 reflections was written with one person in mind: someone who is trying their best, on a day that might not feel like their best, and who deserves a gentle, honest companion for the journey.
Over the course of a year, you'll move through everything: the grief you haven't let yourself fully feel, the patterns you can finally start to see clearly, the self-worth that got quietly eroded and now needs rebuilding, the boundaries you always meant to hold, the joys and friendships and sense of purpose that are yours and yours alone. And when you're ready — not before — the conversation will turn towards the future: what healthy love actually looks like for you, what you will never compromise on again, and how to walk towards new connections with your eyes genuinely open.
I won't promise you that it's easy. But I will promise you this: by the time you reach the end of this year, you will know yourself better than you did when you began. And that knowledge — that quiet, hard-won understanding — is something no relationship ending can ever take from you. I'm glad you're here. Let's begin.
— Leigh Baumann
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