Build a marriage that actually lasts
Your Retrouvaille Rediscovery Weekend was just the beginning. Now, The Marriage Blueprint gives you proven tools, real accountability, and a clear step-by-step plan — led by couples who've walked this road themselves — to rebuild trust, deepen intimacy, and forge a marriage built to last.
"We're not here to tell you it was easy — we're here to show you it's possible, and hand you the exact tools we used to rediscover each other."— Leigh Baumann
What you'll learn
What you'll be able to do
- Apply the Blueprint for Change — your 5-part signature framework (Desire for Change, Dialogue Process, Discussion and Listening, Decide Together, Do - Put your plan into action!) — as a daily practice that turns intention into lasting marital transformation.
- Use your PACE Personality Assessment results to genuinely appreciate how your spouse is wired differently from you, and stop letting those differences become weapons in conflict.
- Trace the family-of-origin patterns, unspoken needs, and inherited values each of you brought into the marriage — and consciously choose which ones stay in your new blueprint.
- Navigate conflict at every level — everyday squalls, recurring storms, and full-scale hurricanes — using the CALM Problem-Solving Process without contempt, shutdown, or lasting damage.
- Rebuild intimacy one step at a time — emotional, intellectual, physical, and spiritual — with concrete weekly practices that re-establish safety, desire, and genuine knowing of each other.
- Identify which foundational pillar of a lasting marriage — trust, forgiveness, commitment, or rediscovered love — is your greatest personal and shared challenge, and walk away with a clear, actionable first step to begin strengthening it.
- Walk away with a living, personalized Marriage Blueprint document — one concrete, actionable tool from each of the 12 sessions assembled into a shared roadmap you both own, trust, and know exactly how to use.
How it works
A school that adapts to you
This isn't a set of static videos. Every lesson is generated live and tuned to where you actually are.
We learn your level
A quick placement check tailors your starting point so you're never bored or lost.
Lessons adapt as you go
Each lesson is written for your pace and your goal, adjusting as your skills grow.
Your AI coach keeps you moving
Checkpoints, feedback, and gentle nudges turn progress into a real result.
The curriculum
What's inside your school
6 modules · 12 lessons
The Blueprint Begins: Foundations for Real Change
Couples returning from the Retrouvaille Weekend arrive with momentum, raw emotion, and fragile hope. This module catches that energy before it fades and immediately gives it structure. We revisit what the weekend cracked open, introduce the Marriage Blueprint framework, and hand couples their first repeatable daily tool: the Blueprint for Change — five movements (Desire, Dialogue, Discuss, Decide, Do) that will appear as a signature anchor in every session that follows. Neuroscience note: the brain's reward circuitry needs small, repeated wins to rewire toward new behavior. We build that habit loop here.
- 1.1Back from the Weekend — Now the Real Work StartsIncluded
- 1.2The Blueprint for Change — Your 5-Part PlaybookIncluded
The Architecture of Self: Personality, Origins, and What You Each Carried In
Before couples can build a new marriage, they have to understand what each of them IS — how they are wired, and what invisible blueprints they imported from the families that shaped them. This is the self-awareness module, and it is sequenced deliberately before trust and conflict work because you cannot fully forgive what you do not yet understand. Neuroscience note: the brain's attachment system is formed in childhood and runs mostly on autopilot in adult relationships. Naming those patterns — without shame — is the first step to overriding them consciously.
- 2.1The PACE Personality Assessment — Wired, Not WeirdIncluded
- 2.2What You Carried In — Family of Origin and the Invisible BlueprintsIncluded
Rebuilding the Foundation: Trust, Forgiveness, and What Commitment Really Means
With self-awareness established, couples are now ready to do the hardest structural work: repairing what was broken. This module covers trust — which is not restored in a moment but rebuilt in a sequence of small, kept promises — forgiveness, which is not the same as forgetting or excusing, and commitment, which is not a feeling but a daily architectural decision. Sequencing note: trust and forgiveness come before conflict work because unresolved betrayal poisons every conflict management technique. You cannot teach couples to 'fight fair' when one or both spouses still does not believe the other is safe.
- 3.1Rebuilding Trust — The Architecture of SafeIncluded
- 3.2Commitment Reimagined — Love as Architecture, Not WeatherIncluded
Navigating the Storm: Anger, Conflict, and the CALM Process
With trust partially rebuilt and commitment re-anchored, couples now have the emotional floor they need to handle conflict constructively. This module names the neuroscience of anger and flooding, dismantles the myth that conflict is the enemy of a good marriage (it is not — contempt is), and gives couples the Marriage Blueprint's original CALM Problem-Solving Process as their go-to tool for conflicts at every level of severity. The storm metaphor is not decorative: squalls, recurring storms, and hurricanes require genuinely different responses, and couples will practice all three.
- 4.1Anger Is Not the Problem — What You Do With It IsIncluded
- 4.2The CALM Process — Squalls, Storms, and HurricanesIncluded
Knowing Each Other Again: Emotional, Intellectual, and Physical Intimacy
This module arrives here — after conflict tools are in place — because intimacy of every kind requires safety, and safety requires the conflict work done in the previous module. Emotional intimacy is the root system; intellectual intimacy is the daily practice of curiosity about your spouse; physical and spiritual intimacy are the fruit. All three are addressed with specificity, honesty, and zero clinical distance. Neuroscience note: intimacy is not primarily about chemistry — it is about safety cues, nervous system co-regulation, and the dopamine reward of genuine, unpredictable knowing of another person. You can rebuild all of it.
- 5.1Emotional and Intellectual Intimacy — Being Known and Staying CuriousIncluded
- 5.2Physical and Spiritual Intimacy — Desire, Touch, and the Sacred ThreadIncluded
Building What Lasts: A God-Centered Marriage and Your Living Blueprint
The final module brings the entire Marriage Blueprint arc to completion. Session 11 makes the explicit case for a God-centered marriage — not as religious obligation, but as the deepest possible source of stability, purpose, and unconditional love that a marriage can be anchored to. Session 12 is the capstone: couples synthesize every tool, assessment, and commitment from all 12 sessions into their personalized, living Marriage Blueprint document — a shared roadmap they both own, believe in, and are equipped to update as their marriage grows.
- 6.1A God-Centered Marriage — Living With Purpose at the CenterIncluded
- 6.2Your Living Marriage Blueprint — The CapstoneIncluded
Who it's for
Is this you?
The Post-Weekend Couple
You just finished your Rediscovery Retrouvaille weekend and feel a fragile hope — this program is the structured next step that turns the Weekend's momentum into lasting change.
The Conflict-Exhausted Spouse
You've tried to fix things but every conversation still explodes; the CALM Process gives you a real, step-by-step way to navigate anger without scorching everything.
The Emotionally or Sexually Disconnected Wife
You feel more like roommates than spouses — the intimacy modules rebuild emotional, intellectual, and physical closeness with concrete weekly practices, not wishful thinking.
The Family-Baggage Carrier
You suspect the patterns from your childhood home are quietly wrecking your marriage; Session 4 helps you trace those inherited blueprints and consciously choose what stays.
The Faith-Rooted Rebuilder
You want a marriage built on shared purpose and something bigger than yourselves — the final module brings a God-centered foundation into your living Blueprint.
The 'Different Wiring' Couple
Your personalities clash in ways that feel unfixable; the PACE Assessment replaces frustration with genuine appreciation for how each of you is wired, not broken.
Questions
Frequently asked
Your teacher
A note from your teacher
Leigh Baumann
We know where you are right now — because we've been there ourselves.
You came home from the Rediscovery Retrouvaille Weekend with something you hadn't felt in a long time: a little bit of hope. Maybe even a lot of it. And then Monday arrived. The dishes were in the sink, the old argument showed up at dinner, and that familiar sinking feeling crept back in. You started wondering whether the Weekend was just a good experience, or whether it could actually become something. That question — how do we make this real and make it last? — is exactly why we built The Marriage Blueprint.
We're not therapists, and we're not going to pretend we have all the answers. What we have is this: we have walked through the fire of a marriage in crisis, done the hard work of rebuilding it from the ground up, and come out the other side with a marriage we genuinely love — not because it's perfect, but because we built it on purpose. We've taken everything we learned from that journey, combined it with what neuroscience actually tells us about how humans change and connect, and turned it into the structured, honest, practical program we wish someone had handed us after our own Weekend.
Here's what we believe, and what this entire program is built on: information without application is just inspiration that fades. The Weekend gave you the spark. The Blueprint gives you the architecture. Session by session, you'll work through the frameworks, do the reflection, have the real conversations, and add one concrete tool to a shared document that — by the time you reach Session 12 — will be a genuine roadmap for your specific marriage. Not someone else's marriage. Yours.
We're not going to let you off the hook, and we're not going to let you be cruel to yourselves either. Both spouses will be equally seen, equally challenged, and equally encouraged. You'll understand why your spouse is wired the way they are. You'll trace the invisible blueprints your families handed you before you ever met. You'll learn to fight well — and to rebuild intimacy in all four dimensions: emotional, intellectual, physical, and spirutual. It's real work. It's also the most important work you will ever do.
If you both showed up to this page, you already have the most important ingredient: the willingness to try. Come bring that willingness into the Blueprint. We'll meet you there, and we'll walk every session with you.
— Leigh Baumann
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